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As a mature woman over a particular age, MatureDating.com has some tips that will help you successfully date a man over 50.
While we were growing up, we weren’t told what to expect when we are dating men. We were left to our own devices when it came to trying to figure out what made them tick and who they truly are as human beings. Because of this lack of information women all over the world probably have made the all-too common mistake of emasculating men and under appreciating them—especially when it came to men over 50.
We turned to the men of a popular dating site for mature singles, MatureDating.com, what they wished women knew. Here are eight of the top responses.
- Appreciate the man for the man that he is.
As wonderful as men are, they aren’t women. That’s pretty obvious, right? Of course it is! Except, women still treat men as though they communicate, think and even act like a woman, which we all know they do not. And this is one of the biggest reasons why women often feel let down or disappointed when she talks to a man. Instead of wanting him to be more like a woman, appreciate him for the man that he is. Understand that they will not communicate the same way, they won’t approach a situation the same way that you would, and make an effort to meet them half way.
- Men over 50 are manly men and love when you make them feel that way.
Unlike their younger counterparts who may be okay with being the beta in a relationship, men over 50 are manly men and they don’t want to date a woman who makes them feel less than manly. As an alpha female, you may be used to “wearing the pants” so to speak, but if you want to be in a relationship with a mature man, you’re going to have to take a step back and let him be the man. The key here is to embrace your femininity. You’ll find that when you are able to do that, he’ll do whatever he can to make you happy.
- Men will show you they love you rather than tell you.
If you’re waiting for a man to profess his undying love to you, you may not want to hold your breath. Unlike the plethora of romantic comedies that suggest that men will come to you and tell you how lost they’d be without you, how much they love and adore you, real life men are less likely to verbalize their feelings. Instead, they will complete that honey do list without being asked, they’ll change the oil in your car, they’ll even give you their jacket when it’s cold out. In other words, they will show you how much they care rather than tell you.
- Let a man do things and give you things.
Mature men were taught that they are the providers and they should give to the women they care for. So let them open the door for you. Let them open that jar of pickles that you can’t open. It makes them happy when you come to them for help—it makes them feel needed and like they serve a purpose. Sure, they know that you are a strong and independent woman, but it is always nice to feel needed, wouldn’t you agree?
- Don’t criticize the man for the job they do.
We all have expectations when we have things done for us—especially as a mature adult. We’ve grown accustomed to having things done our way. With that said, when a man does something for you, you shouldn’t criticize him if he doesn’t do it the way you would. Sure, you like your underwear folded a particular way and when he does the laundry he doesn’t fold them that way, instead of correcting him, thank him. No one wants to be criticized and when you find problems with the things they do when they try to do something nice for you, they won’t want to do it anymore. It makes them feel unappreciated and ultimately wonder why you are with them if they can’t make you happy.
