What does it feel like to be groped?

It was: surreal and strange. I’m a man and I’ve been groped by a woman. At the risk of justifying bad behavior, I kinda liked it. I’ve had my butt grabbed dozens of times. I’ve had my crotch rubbed through the front of my pants.

I was at a party and a woman decided that she was interested in me. She walked up to me and grabbed my penis through my pants. I wanted to slink away. To be handled like a piece of meat was…it hurt something inside of me. What was just as bad was that a few people had been made aware of her desires and intentions and were watching. When she “made her move” they all whooped and hollered which drew the attention of others. I was at the center of a group of people who expected that I follow up on this woman’s “advances.” I stuttered something I can hardly remember which made her laugh. I was stammering and turning bright red. She moved closer. Her hand hadn’t moved. I came up with some reason to walk away. I left the party.

The next day one of my friends who was at the party called me, laughing at me for being so “shy.” I forced out a laugh. Agreed with some of what he accused me of, laughed off some of the jokes he relayed to me from after I left. He said the woman was still interested in me and I should get in touch with her. He even had her number. I took the number. Never called.

All the stereotypes were on display. Laid out in ugly relief. If a man had done that to a woman in that group of people at the party he would have been beaten to a pulp by many of us. Reverse the genders, though, and it becomes a much different story. I don’t talk about this much, if at all, because “guys are supposed to like that.”

Even now I feel a need to “defend my masculinity.” I’ve re-worded this answer a few times trying to find a way to mention that, had she just talked to me and let me know what she wanted I probably wouldn’t have had a problem. Or if we had known each other and established a physical relationship where I was comfortable with that sort of thing with her. I feel like I have to assure people that I’m straight, that women interest me, that I don’t mind being treated like a piece of meat. I am straight, I am interested in women, but I don’t like being treated like meat. Who would?